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geeklover80) wrote2013-01-30 02:19 am
geeklover80) wrote2013-01-30 02:19 am
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Slightly Discouraged
I've basically been trying to lose weight for four years. I'd exercised and "dieted" before but that was when I got serious about it and kept up with exercising. I haven't had complete success with it. When I first started, I did lose 20 pounds but then gained it back. And there was another time when I lost about ten pounds, but again I gained it back. Part of my problem, is that I'm not good at dieting. I've learned to cut some stuff out, like I rarely drink soda anymore, but I have other vices I can't stop(I have a horrible Keebler Soft Batch cookie addiction.) I think if I had to choose one to do, I should probably do it the other way around and diet without exercise. My boyfriend's mother has been dieting for awhile, and she's been losing weight even though she really doesn't exercise at all.
When I moved in with my boyfriend, they had a Wii, so I would do Wii fitness all the time, but I got kind of down because the results fluctuated wildly. Sometimes I'd lose a pound or two, but more often than not I'd either gain a few pounds or stay exactly the same. My boyfriend was struggling with his weight as well so we decided to try going vegetarian. But that still doesn't necessarily mean eating the healthiest of foods. But we've done that, we're taking vitamins and we joined a gym. My boyfriend has been telling me that he's een noticing some changes. And I've definitely noticed it in him. But we hadn't really weighed ourself. So I told my boyfriend that the other night, and he said we should go to the supermarket, where they had a scale. I was very nervous and then was disappointed that I hadn't lost anything. My boyfriend says that your actual weight number isn't that important and we've only been doing this for a little less than a month. But still, I thought I'd have at least lost a little something instead gaining weight. But Mike still says he's seeing changes, and like I said he's definitely changing (his butt is in danger of being displaced by his biceps, as my favorite body part of his) so we'll just keep doing what we're doing, with a few tweaks.
Stacey
When I moved in with my boyfriend, they had a Wii, so I would do Wii fitness all the time, but I got kind of down because the results fluctuated wildly. Sometimes I'd lose a pound or two, but more often than not I'd either gain a few pounds or stay exactly the same. My boyfriend was struggling with his weight as well so we decided to try going vegetarian. But that still doesn't necessarily mean eating the healthiest of foods. But we've done that, we're taking vitamins and we joined a gym. My boyfriend has been telling me that he's een noticing some changes. And I've definitely noticed it in him. But we hadn't really weighed ourself. So I told my boyfriend that the other night, and he said we should go to the supermarket, where they had a scale. I was very nervous and then was disappointed that I hadn't lost anything. My boyfriend says that your actual weight number isn't that important and we've only been doing this for a little less than a month. But still, I thought I'd have at least lost a little something instead gaining weight. But Mike still says he's seeing changes, and like I said he's definitely changing (his butt is in danger of being displaced by his biceps, as my favorite body part of his) so we'll just keep doing what we're doing, with a few tweaks.
Stacey
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Second: Maybe it's a vocabulary problem because you're always talking about "dieting". But dieting is - if it works - usually a short term thing. As soon as you change back your eating habits to what they were before, the weight will come back. That means that doing special diets like ananas diet or something like that isn't a long term solution. What you have to do - and I'm sure you know it + I don't wanna sound like a Besserwisser - is changing you eating habits in general and stick to it. That doesn't mean you have to quit all chocolate or your favourite cookies but to control how much of it you eat.
I know that it sounds easy but doing it is a different pair of shoes. Everybody has to find the right way for themself. I lost last year 40 pounds with the help of Weight Watchers. It is a concept which works great for me and which I can incorporate in my everyday life. A friend of mine did low carp and lost 20 pounds without any help from outside. You just have to figure out the right concept for yourself and then stick to it. That's the important thing: Do it on a daily basis and be patient. You can't loose weight you gained over 2 years in 2 month. That's neither healthy nor realistic. If you're losing weight a healthy amount per week is 250-500 g.
After I lost about 20 pounds I discovered that everything else only works via sports. Of course I cut the calories but being active helped a lot. It doesn't have to be an expensive gym. Start with small things like using the stairs instead of the escalator or leave the buss one station earlier and walk the rest of the way.
Regarding your weight: If you start to train you usually gain weight at first because you build up muscles. If your body has established a muscle basis it starts to loose weight again. But in the beginning you gain weight first. This weight isn't fat though but muscles which gives your body a shape and helps to strenghten your skinn and everything. The sheer number doesn't count here.
Plus there are so many things which can have effects on the number on the scale: Do you have your period (more water in the body = more weight), did you eat much salt (more water in the body = more weight), when did you eat the last time and when are you weighing yourself etc.
It's a great thing your bf supports you. I found it helps if you have someone you said you're gonna meet for doing sport together. Maybe there's a friend or a co-worker whose gonna meet you once a week for a walk or swimming or anything? Often people wanna do something but can't bring themselves really to do it. It's easier if you're two:)
To sum it up:
1. *yay* You're doing something. That's the first step and really great already.
2. Don't be discouraged by set-backs. It happens. Just forget it and start the next day with a clean sleight. Try to stay motivated. Give yourself realistic short term goals like: 5 % lost weight, 10 % lost weight or 10 pounds lost, 20 pounds lost etc. Reward yourself if you reached your goal. Or ask a friend to give you a surprise when you've reached it.
3. Do it on a regular basis and be patient. It will work in the end. I'm certain!
Hope I wasn't too condescending.
*hugs*
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I've definitely read something before that mentioned dieting is really no good, and changing your eating habits so that you can maintain it, instead of going back to business as usual, is the way to go.
Congratulations on your weight loss. I've seen those Weight Watchers ads and been curious about it. I've been curious about that stuff for years.
I'm trying to be more patient.
When we weighed ourselves we had just ate and I wondered if that could be a factor.
You've been really helpful. I'm going to work on setting goals for myself.
*hugs*
Stacey