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geeklover80) wrote2014-02-24 01:20 am
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Another Day, Another Wedding Date
I definitely didn't plan on picking a third wedding date. When we changed it the first time, we discussed it and even though I was the one that picked out the date, Mike gave the okay and I really liked the idea of having our honeymoon on Valentine's Day. But Jean came to us the other day and she said that she thought we should change the date because of the poor weather. She said that on February 7 this year the weather was really bad in Maryland and people were advised not to travel. She said that if we left our wedding date the same, next year the same thing could happen and many on Michael's side might not be able to make it. Even though the explanation sounded reasonable, I was still pretty resistant to changing the date. Mike then said something about how at his job you're not allowed to take vacation on holidays. I'm pretty sure Valentine's Day isn't a traditional holiday but still it was another reason to consider making the change. I then thought about the fact that it's not just Mike's family on the East Coast, but that I have a lot of family in NY and around there that might be affected as well. So I decided to consider other dates. Mike was a little reticent about picking a date at all since he was worried about picking a date and then the date not being available at the venues we look at. But I said we had to set a date and we'd just have to find a place available on that date.
I really didn't like the idea of picking a random date, but the only other date of significance I could think of was in May, on the anniversary of the day we got engaged. But I really didn't want to wait that long. The latest I wanted to make it was March or April. Jean kept saying that we also had to consider when Spring Break would be, because the airfare would be higher. I didn't really care because it would be hard to work around that because so many schools have different dates for Spring Break. But Mike and I went online and looked up different schools in Florida and Maryland and their Spring Break dates. Like I thought there were a lot of different times. But it seemed like the best time to pick a date would be toward the beginning of March. But the first two Saturdays are so close to Mike's birthday, and for whatever reason I'd rather there be some distance between our wedding date and his birthday. I went online and looked up different airfare rates in March, April, and even May. It seemed the best date would be March 28. I liked that idea because it was very close to my dad's birthday. In fact, it would be in the middle of my dad's birthday and my mom's. Michael also liked it because the weather would be a lot better than in the beginning of the month. We talked to Jean about it, but she said that she'd call some of her old airline contacts (she used to work at the airport) and see what months had the best airfare. She finally told us a couple of days later that it seemed like early March and May were the best options. I still didn't like the idea of early March and was attached to March 28. Thankfully, Michael turned to me and said he still liked March 28 the best. We decided we'd just take our chances with the airfare and, unfortunately, whoever can't come, can't come.
Telling my mom wasn't a picnic. She acted like I was enjoying repeatedly changing the date. Though she did mostly back off when I explained why. She has the same worries as Mike about securing a venue. She's been panicking about it. I know that places can get booked up very early in advance, especially the good ones but I still have a year and I don't want to be rushed into picking a place. She's called a lot of different places and I've found a couple online. It's been hard to coordinate a time to visit the places because of our different work schedules, especially Mike's. She wants all of us - me, her, Mike, and Jean - to do it on a couple of different dates. Mike said he'd be willing to go on his day off, but with school he doesn't have unlimited time to visit places and do it on my mom's schedule. So I suggested that on one of the trips Jean, Mike, and I go and we can show her pictures. Granted this was just one option. She seems to have her heart set on one place she's found so I didn't think it would bother her not to see all of the different places we had in mind. And I didn't say we'd make a decision and pick the final spot on that trip. But she got really upset. She said I was going against tradition and that she'd talked to people and they said the most important people to pick a venue with would be her and Jean and Michael seeing the places wasn't important, which I definitely don't agree with. Mike really wants to be involved with that decision and I want him too as well. It's his wedding, too. The only thing she said that I agreed with was that since she's paying for the place she has to be there when we pick it so she can sign the contract. So we finally picked a time where Mike, her, and I can go and check some places out in a couple of weeks. Mike's taking some vacation in the middle of March for his mid-terms (we couldn't do the visits with mom then because the hotel she really likes can't do an appointment that day) and I guess Mike and I will go to some of the candidates for a second time but Jean can come with us that time and see the places herself.
I'm starting to despair that I'll never find anything to eat ever again. I was reading this blog that![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
the_redjay linked to on her journal about the myth about 1200 calories. When I started my diet and started using my fitness app, it mentioned that 1200 was the minimum amount of calories you should have in one day, anything less than that could have severe consequences. Once I lost a lot of weight, my calorie goal for the day got adjusted down to 1200 calories. I don't usually strictly hold myself to that though. On days that I exercise I usually take in more than that and usually as long as I don't go above 1500 it doesn't bother me. But I was reading on that blog how unhealthy it is to strive for the 1200 calorie target and how counting calories isn't the most important thing and that you should probably be taking in closer to 2000 calories. A lot of the stuff I read in the blog is stuff Mike has already told me. Like it talked about after you work out you should get a lot of protein into your system and that women don't need to do different exercises than men, and that building muscle is really important. Mike was always really good when we went to to the gym to have us doing the same exercises and to have us drink protein shakes after we were done. That's probably part of the reason my diet was so successful last year. He also mentioned that counting your calories isn't as important as counting your carbs, which is not good news for me. The whole low carb thing is part of the Paleo diet that we had been doing. But keeping to the carb limits in that diet never really worked out for me. As difficult as eating only 1200 calories is, I have a lot easier time doing that than limiting myself to 100 carbs a day. Mike said that you could eat something that has a lot of calories, like almonds, but they're good and have the good kind of fats you need.
But that's not the reason I'm despairing over never eating again. My talk with Mike about the blog got him on a roll in trying to impart his nutritional wisdom to me, which he does a lot. He started telling me again about how bad eating processed foods is, and the best things you can eat don't include a lot of ingredients. Like he showed me a bag of almonds and the only ingredients were almonds. He talked about how bad high fructose corn syrup is and just how eating anything high in sugar is the worst thing you could do. And he showed me a lot of ways companies try to sneak it past you that trans fat is one of the ingredients. There are a lot of different names for trans fat. He said that he was trying to wean us off the breakfast sandwiches we'd been buying because those include trans fat. So I thought great now I can't eat those. Then I decided to check out all the veggie foods we'd been buying. Ever since we went part vegetarian we'd been buying these microwave foods from MorningStar Farms that were veggie alternatives of things like hamburgers, pizzas, meatballs, etc. I knew that they weren't necessarily the healthiest food ever, but I thought they had to be better than the alternative. But then I looked at the ingredients and, wow, it was like a ten million mile long list of ingredients and a lot of the bad ones. So now it's like I can't eat those anymore, which consisted of like 70% of my diet lately. Now, I find that I can't stop looking at the ingredients for everything and almost nothing that I like is good enough to eat. I semi-teasingly whined to him "How am I going to eat anything ever?" Today we were at the market and I saw some organic soups and I thought maybe those would be good. But I saw that some of them had corn starch, so I was about to pout and put them back but Mike said corn starch wasn't good, but it wasn't the worse thing you could have, especially when the other ingredients weren't so bad. He said at this point you just have to pick your battles and go for the lesser of two evils sometimes. For me, even though Mike said sugar is bad and I do want to cut out high fructose corn syrup, I'm not as worried about that as cutting out the trans fats.
Mike had a doctor's appointment last week and we had a bit of a funny incident happen. We went there in the morning because Mike was sure his appointment was at 10, but they said it had been at 9, so they rescheduled for late afternoon. When we got there we ended up waiting there forever. While we waited Mike told me about how he'd looked in the mirror the other day and saw that he was starting to get a six pack, which I hadn't noticed before. I joked that maybe he could flash me a peak at his stomach, which he didn't go for. After about an hour the nurse called us to finally go to a room and see the doctor. The nurse took some information first and then left us. We again waited. After about forty or so minutes, Mike got up and stretched. I asked him to show me his almost six pack while he was standing. So he lifted up his shirt and showed it to me. I was shocked that he wasn't exaggerating and it really did look almost like a six pack, sort of a five pack. It was only a few seconds and then I heard a noise outside the door. Mike hastily put his shirt down and sat down. We were both giggling. The doctor started to open the door and for some reason the thought occurred to me that if she heard us giggling she might think that we were fooling around in there. I accidentally let out a really loud high pitched laugh/squawk. The doctor stopped opening the door and waited a few seconds and then opened it and came in. She smiled and said she heard my shriek and thought she would give us a few seconds. So if she didn't think we were fooling around before, she definitely did after my gigantic laugh.
A good thing about the doctor's appointment was I finally made an appointment for a doctor's visit. It'll be my first doctor's appointment in many, many, many years. I'm kind of nervous.
I found out a couple of sort of surprising things about Michael. I was at this website and they had a question about whether you should spend the night before your wedding together or apart. Even though I thought I had talked to Mike about that before, I asked him about it and he surprised me by saying he thought we should spend the night before our wedding together. I just naturally thought we'd spend it apart and that he'd agreed with me. But the reason he said he wanted to spend it together was really sweet. He said he wanted to spend that night together and just talk about the big day up ahead and how our lives were about to change until we fell asleep. With reasoning like that, I couldn't really argue. I even joked that since he always wakes up before I do, he could just make himself scarce before I wake up and at least we wouldn't see each other the morning of the wedding. Though Mike said he doesn't really believe in the superstition of seeing the bride before the wedding could be bad luck. He said he's not very superstitious. Which I'm not really either.
The other thing he said that surprised me wasn't that he didn't want to own a dog. We were at this store that were selling these really cute bunny rabbits. After we left them he said that he rather own a rabbit than a dog. I was surprised because he's such a dog person and I always thought we would end up owning our own dog. He always plays with the dogs in our house and is so cute with them. He made me laugh when he said his opinion about dogs is like a lot of people's opinions about other people's kids. He loves dogs and loves petting other people's dogs but he especially loves when their owners take them home. He says our dogs can be really annoying with all of the noise and constant barking. He does have a point. The way they sometimes bark incessantly at nothing can get really aggravating. But they can be really cute.
I started watching Archer and Scandal. I hadn't planned on watching Archer but the first season has only ten episodes and I ended up going through those pretty quickly. Mike and I are watching it together and it's really hilarious. I watched the first episode of Scandal today. I debated on watching House of Cards instead, since so many people on my f-list love it and it's being talked about everywhere and I don't want to get accidentally spoiled, but I've been meaning to watch Scandal for awhile, so I figured I'd start that instead. I like the first episode well enough and I heard it gets a lot better as the show goes on.
Stacey
I really didn't like the idea of picking a random date, but the only other date of significance I could think of was in May, on the anniversary of the day we got engaged. But I really didn't want to wait that long. The latest I wanted to make it was March or April. Jean kept saying that we also had to consider when Spring Break would be, because the airfare would be higher. I didn't really care because it would be hard to work around that because so many schools have different dates for Spring Break. But Mike and I went online and looked up different schools in Florida and Maryland and their Spring Break dates. Like I thought there were a lot of different times. But it seemed like the best time to pick a date would be toward the beginning of March. But the first two Saturdays are so close to Mike's birthday, and for whatever reason I'd rather there be some distance between our wedding date and his birthday. I went online and looked up different airfare rates in March, April, and even May. It seemed the best date would be March 28. I liked that idea because it was very close to my dad's birthday. In fact, it would be in the middle of my dad's birthday and my mom's. Michael also liked it because the weather would be a lot better than in the beginning of the month. We talked to Jean about it, but she said that she'd call some of her old airline contacts (she used to work at the airport) and see what months had the best airfare. She finally told us a couple of days later that it seemed like early March and May were the best options. I still didn't like the idea of early March and was attached to March 28. Thankfully, Michael turned to me and said he still liked March 28 the best. We decided we'd just take our chances with the airfare and, unfortunately, whoever can't come, can't come.
Telling my mom wasn't a picnic. She acted like I was enjoying repeatedly changing the date. Though she did mostly back off when I explained why. She has the same worries as Mike about securing a venue. She's been panicking about it. I know that places can get booked up very early in advance, especially the good ones but I still have a year and I don't want to be rushed into picking a place. She's called a lot of different places and I've found a couple online. It's been hard to coordinate a time to visit the places because of our different work schedules, especially Mike's. She wants all of us - me, her, Mike, and Jean - to do it on a couple of different dates. Mike said he'd be willing to go on his day off, but with school he doesn't have unlimited time to visit places and do it on my mom's schedule. So I suggested that on one of the trips Jean, Mike, and I go and we can show her pictures. Granted this was just one option. She seems to have her heart set on one place she's found so I didn't think it would bother her not to see all of the different places we had in mind. And I didn't say we'd make a decision and pick the final spot on that trip. But she got really upset. She said I was going against tradition and that she'd talked to people and they said the most important people to pick a venue with would be her and Jean and Michael seeing the places wasn't important, which I definitely don't agree with. Mike really wants to be involved with that decision and I want him too as well. It's his wedding, too. The only thing she said that I agreed with was that since she's paying for the place she has to be there when we pick it so she can sign the contract. So we finally picked a time where Mike, her, and I can go and check some places out in a couple of weeks. Mike's taking some vacation in the middle of March for his mid-terms (we couldn't do the visits with mom then because the hotel she really likes can't do an appointment that day) and I guess Mike and I will go to some of the candidates for a second time but Jean can come with us that time and see the places herself.
I'm starting to despair that I'll never find anything to eat ever again. I was reading this blog that
the_redjay linked to on her journal about the myth about 1200 calories. When I started my diet and started using my fitness app, it mentioned that 1200 was the minimum amount of calories you should have in one day, anything less than that could have severe consequences. Once I lost a lot of weight, my calorie goal for the day got adjusted down to 1200 calories. I don't usually strictly hold myself to that though. On days that I exercise I usually take in more than that and usually as long as I don't go above 1500 it doesn't bother me. But I was reading on that blog how unhealthy it is to strive for the 1200 calorie target and how counting calories isn't the most important thing and that you should probably be taking in closer to 2000 calories. A lot of the stuff I read in the blog is stuff Mike has already told me. Like it talked about after you work out you should get a lot of protein into your system and that women don't need to do different exercises than men, and that building muscle is really important. Mike was always really good when we went to to the gym to have us doing the same exercises and to have us drink protein shakes after we were done. That's probably part of the reason my diet was so successful last year. He also mentioned that counting your calories isn't as important as counting your carbs, which is not good news for me. The whole low carb thing is part of the Paleo diet that we had been doing. But keeping to the carb limits in that diet never really worked out for me. As difficult as eating only 1200 calories is, I have a lot easier time doing that than limiting myself to 100 carbs a day. Mike said that you could eat something that has a lot of calories, like almonds, but they're good and have the good kind of fats you need.But that's not the reason I'm despairing over never eating again. My talk with Mike about the blog got him on a roll in trying to impart his nutritional wisdom to me, which he does a lot. He started telling me again about how bad eating processed foods is, and the best things you can eat don't include a lot of ingredients. Like he showed me a bag of almonds and the only ingredients were almonds. He talked about how bad high fructose corn syrup is and just how eating anything high in sugar is the worst thing you could do. And he showed me a lot of ways companies try to sneak it past you that trans fat is one of the ingredients. There are a lot of different names for trans fat. He said that he was trying to wean us off the breakfast sandwiches we'd been buying because those include trans fat. So I thought great now I can't eat those. Then I decided to check out all the veggie foods we'd been buying. Ever since we went part vegetarian we'd been buying these microwave foods from MorningStar Farms that were veggie alternatives of things like hamburgers, pizzas, meatballs, etc. I knew that they weren't necessarily the healthiest food ever, but I thought they had to be better than the alternative. But then I looked at the ingredients and, wow, it was like a ten million mile long list of ingredients and a lot of the bad ones. So now it's like I can't eat those anymore, which consisted of like 70% of my diet lately. Now, I find that I can't stop looking at the ingredients for everything and almost nothing that I like is good enough to eat. I semi-teasingly whined to him "How am I going to eat anything ever?" Today we were at the market and I saw some organic soups and I thought maybe those would be good. But I saw that some of them had corn starch, so I was about to pout and put them back but Mike said corn starch wasn't good, but it wasn't the worse thing you could have, especially when the other ingredients weren't so bad. He said at this point you just have to pick your battles and go for the lesser of two evils sometimes. For me, even though Mike said sugar is bad and I do want to cut out high fructose corn syrup, I'm not as worried about that as cutting out the trans fats.
Mike had a doctor's appointment last week and we had a bit of a funny incident happen. We went there in the morning because Mike was sure his appointment was at 10, but they said it had been at 9, so they rescheduled for late afternoon. When we got there we ended up waiting there forever. While we waited Mike told me about how he'd looked in the mirror the other day and saw that he was starting to get a six pack, which I hadn't noticed before. I joked that maybe he could flash me a peak at his stomach, which he didn't go for. After about an hour the nurse called us to finally go to a room and see the doctor. The nurse took some information first and then left us. We again waited. After about forty or so minutes, Mike got up and stretched. I asked him to show me his almost six pack while he was standing. So he lifted up his shirt and showed it to me. I was shocked that he wasn't exaggerating and it really did look almost like a six pack, sort of a five pack. It was only a few seconds and then I heard a noise outside the door. Mike hastily put his shirt down and sat down. We were both giggling. The doctor started to open the door and for some reason the thought occurred to me that if she heard us giggling she might think that we were fooling around in there. I accidentally let out a really loud high pitched laugh/squawk. The doctor stopped opening the door and waited a few seconds and then opened it and came in. She smiled and said she heard my shriek and thought she would give us a few seconds. So if she didn't think we were fooling around before, she definitely did after my gigantic laugh.
A good thing about the doctor's appointment was I finally made an appointment for a doctor's visit. It'll be my first doctor's appointment in many, many, many years. I'm kind of nervous.
I found out a couple of sort of surprising things about Michael. I was at this website and they had a question about whether you should spend the night before your wedding together or apart. Even though I thought I had talked to Mike about that before, I asked him about it and he surprised me by saying he thought we should spend the night before our wedding together. I just naturally thought we'd spend it apart and that he'd agreed with me. But the reason he said he wanted to spend it together was really sweet. He said he wanted to spend that night together and just talk about the big day up ahead and how our lives were about to change until we fell asleep. With reasoning like that, I couldn't really argue. I even joked that since he always wakes up before I do, he could just make himself scarce before I wake up and at least we wouldn't see each other the morning of the wedding. Though Mike said he doesn't really believe in the superstition of seeing the bride before the wedding could be bad luck. He said he's not very superstitious. Which I'm not really either.
The other thing he said that surprised me wasn't that he didn't want to own a dog. We were at this store that were selling these really cute bunny rabbits. After we left them he said that he rather own a rabbit than a dog. I was surprised because he's such a dog person and I always thought we would end up owning our own dog. He always plays with the dogs in our house and is so cute with them. He made me laugh when he said his opinion about dogs is like a lot of people's opinions about other people's kids. He loves dogs and loves petting other people's dogs but he especially loves when their owners take them home. He says our dogs can be really annoying with all of the noise and constant barking. He does have a point. The way they sometimes bark incessantly at nothing can get really aggravating. But they can be really cute.
I started watching Archer and Scandal. I hadn't planned on watching Archer but the first season has only ten episodes and I ended up going through those pretty quickly. Mike and I are watching it together and it's really hilarious. I watched the first episode of Scandal today. I debated on watching House of Cards instead, since so many people on my f-list love it and it's being talked about everywhere and I don't want to get accidentally spoiled, but I've been meaning to watch Scandal for awhile, so I figured I'd start that instead. I like the first episode well enough and I heard it gets a lot better as the show goes on.
Stacey