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geeklover80) wrote2015-01-12 02:27 am
geeklover80) wrote2015-01-12 02:27 am
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Seventh Circle of Hell
I'm not really big on shopping. I might enjoy it more if I ever had money to freely shop, but even if I did I don't think I'd enjoy the act of shopping very much. I can do it for a little while, but if I'm out there for more than an hour or so I start to get annoyed - especially if I'm there against my will - and just want to go home. That's with clothes shopping, which I actually have some interest in. When it comes to shoes, I really have no interest. But I had to go shoe shopping almost all day.
My mom "got to" Jean about the shoes. She walked into our room the other day and started asking me about my shoes for the wedding. When I said no heels, she gave me my mom's line about if I would at least try a really small heel. She admitted later my mom put her up to it and asked to take me shoe shopping. I decided to at least give it a try.
First, I looked online at pinterest to see what kind of shoes I'd like. I had mentioned thinking about wedges, but I couldn't find any that I liked. A lot of them were just as high as some heels and chunkier than I wanted. Most of the shoes I liked did turn out to be flats.
When we got the mall, Mike first got shoes for himself. He already got rentals but he wanted something better and more comfortable. Mike has problems with dress shoes. He needs a wider front and can't always find it. This time he found a shoe he liked right away.
I wasn't so lucky. As soon as I tried on my first shoe, I knew I might be in trouble. I've always had trouble finding shoes because my right foot is abnormal. Well, not the foot but the toes. The second to last toe is shorter than the last one. I don't know what it's missing, but it looks like it's ingrown or something. I have trouble describig it, so here's a picture under a spoiler cut for any non-foot fetishists out there. ;)![IMG_1360[1]](https://ic.pics.livejournal.com/geekslave/13413872/129957/129957_300.jpg "IMG_1360[1]")
That's one of the reasons I almost never wear sandals and a lot of times when I have to find formal shoes, it's a little more difficult, like I'll find shoes that I like when I try them on, but after wearing them a short time they start to hurt. I tend to stick to sneakers because it's easier to find comfortable ones.
That never really occurred to me when we went shopping because I hadn't given it much thought and I rarely go shoe shopping. As soon as I tried on the first one, it felt a little too tight and the edge of the toe box hits me right in the middle of that problematic toe. And it was like that with almost every shoe I tried on in that store. There was no shoe that covered the whole toe and all of them squeezed the front of my foot.
I tried on a couple of heels, which mostly had the same problems, but it was enough to know that I might be willing to try a heel as long as it isn't too high and that the heel isn't too skinny.
One of the biggest problems, other than the shape of the shoes not working with my feet, is that there aren't many stores for good shoes around here. When it was a bust at the mall we were at, which was already 45 minutes from our house, we went to another mall that was another half an hour away.
When we went to the second mall, I did find a shoe that finally covered the problem toe, but it still felt too tight and with that one the way it hit my ankle hurt my ankle bone. Jean was really disappointed I didn't go for that one. She said it was just one day, which yeah, but I don't want to be uncomfortable on that day. At one point Michael joked that I might have to go for a dressy sneaker for the wedding. I'm not too keen on that idea and I know my mom would go apoplectic at that thought.
But I might end up with no choice. I found a lot of shoes I liked online, but I hate online shopping for clothes and shoes because a lot of times something looks good when you're looking at it, but when you try it on, it doesn't look as good or doesn't fit right. Given how much trouble I had with the majority of shoes I tried on, I don't know if I could trust buying a shoe online that I haven't tried on. I think like with Mike I need a shoe with a much wider toe than I'm finding right now.
Another big problem with finding the right shoe is a problem with finding a shoe in the right size. My shoe size is 7 1/2...generally. Like it's 7 1/2 with sneakers, but with other shoes sometimes I wear a 7, sometimes I can pull off an 8. When I tried on shoes that day, I tried it in a lot of different sizes. I tried 7 1/2 shoes at first, but most of them were either way too big or slightly too big. So sometimes I tried 7, 6 1/2, or 6 and none of them fit consistently. The best fits were 6 1/2 and 7.
But if I try to buy on-line, I don't know which size I should go for, which of course makes things more difficult.
After about the fourth or fifth hour of shoe shopping, I started to get grouchy and frustrated and didn't want to look at another shoe again. But I must keep looking. If I don't find a shoe I trust online, I'm thinking of going up to where our wedding is being held (since we have to drop off the cake topper) and try and find something there, since they have a lot of shops.
Stacey
My mom "got to" Jean about the shoes. She walked into our room the other day and started asking me about my shoes for the wedding. When I said no heels, she gave me my mom's line about if I would at least try a really small heel. She admitted later my mom put her up to it and asked to take me shoe shopping. I decided to at least give it a try.
First, I looked online at pinterest to see what kind of shoes I'd like. I had mentioned thinking about wedges, but I couldn't find any that I liked. A lot of them were just as high as some heels and chunkier than I wanted. Most of the shoes I liked did turn out to be flats.
When we got the mall, Mike first got shoes for himself. He already got rentals but he wanted something better and more comfortable. Mike has problems with dress shoes. He needs a wider front and can't always find it. This time he found a shoe he liked right away.
I wasn't so lucky. As soon as I tried on my first shoe, I knew I might be in trouble. I've always had trouble finding shoes because my right foot is abnormal. Well, not the foot but the toes. The second to last toe is shorter than the last one. I don't know what it's missing, but it looks like it's ingrown or something. I have trouble describig it, so here's a picture under a spoiler cut for any non-foot fetishists out there. ;)
That's one of the reasons I almost never wear sandals and a lot of times when I have to find formal shoes, it's a little more difficult, like I'll find shoes that I like when I try them on, but after wearing them a short time they start to hurt. I tend to stick to sneakers because it's easier to find comfortable ones.
That never really occurred to me when we went shopping because I hadn't given it much thought and I rarely go shoe shopping. As soon as I tried on the first one, it felt a little too tight and the edge of the toe box hits me right in the middle of that problematic toe. And it was like that with almost every shoe I tried on in that store. There was no shoe that covered the whole toe and all of them squeezed the front of my foot.
I tried on a couple of heels, which mostly had the same problems, but it was enough to know that I might be willing to try a heel as long as it isn't too high and that the heel isn't too skinny.
One of the biggest problems, other than the shape of the shoes not working with my feet, is that there aren't many stores for good shoes around here. When it was a bust at the mall we were at, which was already 45 minutes from our house, we went to another mall that was another half an hour away.
When we went to the second mall, I did find a shoe that finally covered the problem toe, but it still felt too tight and with that one the way it hit my ankle hurt my ankle bone. Jean was really disappointed I didn't go for that one. She said it was just one day, which yeah, but I don't want to be uncomfortable on that day. At one point Michael joked that I might have to go for a dressy sneaker for the wedding. I'm not too keen on that idea and I know my mom would go apoplectic at that thought.
But I might end up with no choice. I found a lot of shoes I liked online, but I hate online shopping for clothes and shoes because a lot of times something looks good when you're looking at it, but when you try it on, it doesn't look as good or doesn't fit right. Given how much trouble I had with the majority of shoes I tried on, I don't know if I could trust buying a shoe online that I haven't tried on. I think like with Mike I need a shoe with a much wider toe than I'm finding right now.
Another big problem with finding the right shoe is a problem with finding a shoe in the right size. My shoe size is 7 1/2...generally. Like it's 7 1/2 with sneakers, but with other shoes sometimes I wear a 7, sometimes I can pull off an 8. When I tried on shoes that day, I tried it in a lot of different sizes. I tried 7 1/2 shoes at first, but most of them were either way too big or slightly too big. So sometimes I tried 7, 6 1/2, or 6 and none of them fit consistently. The best fits were 6 1/2 and 7.
But if I try to buy on-line, I don't know which size I should go for, which of course makes things more difficult.
After about the fourth or fifth hour of shoe shopping, I started to get grouchy and frustrated and didn't want to look at another shoe again. But I must keep looking. If I don't find a shoe I trust online, I'm thinking of going up to where our wedding is being held (since we have to drop off the cake topper) and try and find something there, since they have a lot of shops.
Stacey
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Thank you!
Stacey
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That's how almost all of my friends did it so they looked perfect during the ceremony (a heel just gives you a complete different body language when you wear it to a dress) but can be comfortable at the party afterwards. And you could take a relatively inexpensive pair of flats. They don't even have to be white if you don't wear white too often - they could be sparkly silver, gold or cream.
I know that there are shoes out there which are extra wide - usually at the heel or middle. But they're wider in general so that could be an option? You can find them for example at Simply Be (and I'm sure at a bunch of other online sites as well):
http://www.simplybe.com/icat/viewallfootwear
You can change the search parameters on the left.
Oh, and what about a 3/4 inch heel? (http://www.simplybe-euro.com/shop/the-shoe-tailor-slip-on-shoes-extra-wide-eee-fit/gq718/product/details/show.action?pdBoUid=1457#colour:,size:) It's higher than flats but not too high.
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Thanks for the links! Some cut shoes on there.
Stacey
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But good luck with finding something nevertheless.
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Thanks.
Stacey
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I hope you find something you like and that fits well. I believe your happiness (and Mike's) on the day is all that matters and if you'd be happy walking down the aisle in flats, go for flats. Or even sneakers for that matter. If you have a long dress, chances are no one is going to see your shoes unless you show them anyway.
My cousin's kept the shoes she was wearing a secret until the day, cos she knew someone wouldn't 'approve'. They got a shock, but it was too late for them to do anything, so they had to accept it. My cuz wanted to be comfortable, so she wore chucks. Only the bridal party knew until after the ceremony, when they become a talking point, in a good way.
If you have trouble with sizes and fit, unless you know the brand well or had shoes from them before, I'd steer clear of buying shoes online. Shopping in stores may be something you have to grin and bare, but maybe do your research if possible on the online before you make a trip to the store.
Good Luck!!!
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Thanks for the advice!
Stacey
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I bought two pairs of flats online for my wedding. I wore one, it was the right choice. I'd send you mine but I'm at least a full size bigger than you in the foot.
I went to a wedding where the bride wore gold glitter converse hi-tops, and I've been to one where the bride wore sparkly red chucks. Don't let them dictate heels to you. I guarantee you will be barefoot or in flip-flops within hours and that's a much worse look than a pretty pair of flats.
https://www.pinterest.com/explore/flat-bridal-shoes/
http://www.bellissimabridalshoes.com/bridal-shoes (note the shiny sneakers!)
Etc etc... google "flat bridal shoes" and go from there.
I strongly believe that your wedding day is not the day to be trying new shoe styles.
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Thanks for the offer to send me your shoes. :)
Thanks for the links. I've checked out the flats on pinterest before. I found a lot of really cute ones that I like. Now whether they'd fit my wide feet is the question.
Stacey
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Good call on not taking the shoes that would have been uncomfortable - even one day is too much with badly-fitting shoes, you'd be torturing yourself and adding needless stress and pain to a day that should have as little of both as possible. :-) Plus, paying money for shoes that you'll never want to wear again makes no sense!
I'm not sure why your mother and Jean are so eager to have you wear heels, but as other commenters have said, there are some very very pretty flats suitable for bridal wear out there.
In the end, remember that it's really your choice, and what you wear is up to you, not anyone else.
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It's more my mom than Jean that's the heel obsessive. She thinks it's a wedding and you're supposed to wear heels to that, it's not proper without it, and she thinks the pictures will come out better, since Mike and I would probably be the same height in the right pair of shoes.
But, yeah, I have found far more cute flats that I like and given my difficulty to find anything, if I can find flats that work for me, that's what I'll do.
Stacey
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I have like 3 pairs of shoes I feel comfortable in and I seriously hate to go shoe shopping and I also hate high heels so I totally know the problem here *hugs*
Hope, you can still find something you like!
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Thanks.
Stacey
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My friend recently got married and bought a pair of heels for the wedding and then a pair of flats for the reception.
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The two shoes idea is definitely popular. If I go with getting heels, I might consider it.
Stacey
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Good luck finding something!
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Stacey