First Impressions

[geeklover80]

It's kind of interesting when you discover things about yourself that you didn't realize. Or, maybe things that you were kind of aware of but didn't realize was such a pattern. I went wedding dress shopping this weekend (separate post later) and it struck me that the two dresses I ended up loving the most were dresses that didn't necessarily wow me upon first glance. I started thinking about it and realized that I lot of stuff that I end up really loving, I didn't have the greatest first impressions of.

This happens with songs, movies, TV shows, clothes, even people. Like for songs, the ones that pop into my head are Lifehouse's "Broken" and Coldplay's "Fix You." I listened to them at first and really liked them, but didn't immediately love them. But then they stayed in the back of my mind and I was kind of drawn to them and the more I listened the more I fell in love.

Friends is my favorite show of all time. But at first, I avoided watching it for the longest time and when I finally watched it, I did really like it but didn't immediately love it. But the more I watched it, I did fall in love, fairly quickly.

Like I said it even happens with people. With Gareth David-Lloyd and Colin Morgan, I was immediately attracted to their co-stars but my opinions of them were kind of on the "eh" side. But it didn't take long before I was putty in their hands and drooled at the sight of them. I look at them now and wonder what the hell I was thinking at first.

And, I really hate admitting this, I had the same reaction to my fiancé the first time I saw a picture of him. I've never told him that, though I don't think it would bother him. It shouldn't bother me either, given that I clearly changed my mind, but I still kind of feel bad about it. I saw his picture on EHarmony and, again I kind of had a shrug my shoulder response. But I saw that we had a few things in common so I gave him a "wink" and now the rest is history. :)

Just some random observations.

Stacey

Comments

[dieastra.livejournal.com]

I know what you mean. I had the same thing happen a few times. For example, I was fan of a German a-cappella band, where two were the front singers and three more the background. So of course you concentrate on the front at first like everyone else. They are the ones that give all the interviews either. But once there was a documentation, and the man from the background (who also happens to write all the songs, so he is a great musician) also was interviewed, and despite him really not having the greatest of looks, I suddenly went: OMG he has beautiful eyes. It's really like a reveleation, sitting on the sofa, realizing this. (here is a picture of him: http://file1.npage.de/003753/50/bilder/wolfgang.png )

That's why I never really believed in love at first sight, I think you need to know the person first better. Then again, JB claims that this is what happened to Scott and him (mutual) so I guess it must be true.

[geekslave.livejournal.com]

Don't really believe in love at first sight either. I definitely believe in attraction at first sight and feeling a connection to someone but I also don't believe you can truly love someone without knowing them.

Stacey

[geekslave.livejournal.com]

I definitely am glad I'm more aware of this now and do hope it helps me to not dismiss things so quickly. First impressions are great, but they aren't everything.

Stacey

[floating-fog.livejournal.com]

I think this sort of thing is pretty common no? I mean, you don't have to instantly love something at first sight to feel connected to it and you don't know you love something (or someone) until you've spent some time with it (err or him) :)

[geekslave.livejournal.com]

I think some people do believe in love at first sight. I know that first impressions are supposed to be really important and they really are to some people. I do think there are people who don't rely on them so much. Not sure which ones more common.

Stacey

[floating-fog.livejournal.com]

It's individual that's for sure. I don't think first impressions are that important, some of my best friends are people whom on first impression I would have never been in touch with them :)

[wwmrsweasleydo.livejournal.com]

I never trust my first impressions anymore. I can't judge anything on first seeing/hearing/meeting. I've learned to take my time and not jump to conclusions. My mum is very proud of how good her judgement and first impressions are. It makes her blinkered about reassessing. She tends to stick to that first idea regardless, which makes her quite closed-minded. I think your way is much better. Now, about these wedding dresses....

[geekslave.livejournal.com]

Sometimes I can trust my first impressions, sometimes I can't. It's definitely better to keep an open mind and not be so rigid.

Did a post about the wedding dresses. :)

Stacey

[leviathans-moon.livejournal.com]

well, it's a good thing you gave him that wink*g*

In some respects I'm the same. sometimes I just need to warm to things or people and then I really love them.

it was like that with one of my best and closest friends. it was alright and funny at the beginning, but I wasn't necessarily to eager to spend that much time with her at first, and over the years she just blew me away with her personality and loyalty and kindness and enthusiasm that now I absolutely love her and couldn't imagine not having her as my friend.

[geekslave.livejournal.com]

A very, very good thing. :)

Your friend sounds great.

Stacey

[oflittleuse.livejournal.com]

Same reaction for Colin Morgan to be honest, he grew on me over time more than anything else. Perhaps the most noticeable for me is my love for Jared Padalecki - I love him a little bit more every single time that man opens up his mouth. He's one of the few celebrities I would pay just to sit down and have a beer with and hang out with. But when I knew him only through his work I was like "meh."

I have pretty good instincts and gut feelings, for example I was sure I would go to UBC back in high school, but when i got the acceptance there it didn't feel right, and then I got my acceptance at Dal and I knew that is where I should be. And I am usually pretty good at reading people when I first meet them.

So yeah ... random observations to add to your random observations.
I guess I am 50/50 with first impressions?

[geekslave.livejournal.com]

Love Jared, though I haven't seen a lot of interviews with him, but those I've seen have been great. There are lots of actors I felt the same way about, that I just wanted to hang out with them. I think as big a crush I have on him Colin is one of those people.

Stacey

[holyfant.livejournal.com]

I'm like this as well. It's usually because those things (and even the people) that I end up loving in the end are more complex and a bit more hard to get to know than the things(/people) that seem immediately lovable. My bestest friends and people that I've fallen in love with almost never inspired an immediate "wow this is the best person ever" response, but as I got to know them more it turned out that they were immensely interesting and just kept drawing me in more and more.

With shows etc it's the same. Things that I can delve into deeper and deeper get my more enduring love, things that are easier don't get that intensity. :)

[geekslave.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I think when something or someone is more interesting and layered I tend to form a deeper attachment to.

Stacey

[bleodswean.livejournal.com]

This is such a great observation and truly a life lesson!

[geekslave.livejournal.com]

It's definitely something I'm glad I'm more aware of now.

Stacey

[teprometo.livejournal.com]

I'm sort of a mixed bag. When it comes to music, if I hear anything enough times, I start to like it simply based on familiarity.

[geekslave.livejournal.com]

Sometimes I'm like that with music. I get used to songs and even ones I didn't like initially grows on me.

Stacey